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Many of us feel vulnerable while using online matrimonial sites because we do not initially know who someone is via their online profile. In most cases they are genuine however there is always a chance that they could be a scammer/player.
This is where personal responsibility comes in
Personal responsibility to choose the right matrimonial site and also to be wise and vigilant when communicating with potential suitors.
Our team at Pure Matrimony realize that this is a major concern for many of us especially women and we have placed safety measures on our site and also created lots of safety tips for you all. If you follow the safety tips you will be fine insha'Allah!
First and foremost we recommend that you all read our guide to Staying Safe Online: Staying Safe Online when using Matrimonial Sites How to Stay Safe online when using Matrimonial Sites
Below are some Safety Tips for sisters:
1) Keep chats restricted to the website or app
“It’s really important to keep all dialogue restricted to the messaging services on the website. If you keep conversations strictly on the site scammers are unlikely to target you, because they know the dating site will detect their behaviour.”
2) Block and Report anyone suspicious
"On the matrimonial site users’ behaviour can be monitored, so if someone becomes abusive or inappropriate, the site can respond accordingly. You also have the ability to report and block someone on our site and our team will deal with each report within 24 hours.
3) Take time to get to know someone before meeting
Some men will use romantic loving words and sweet promises to get what they want. As the saying goes ‘Follow your heart but take your brain with you’ so do not allow your emotions of how he makes you feel to bypass your logic and intellect and drop your standards and limits especially those set by Allah SWT. When you meet someone you can quickly feel like you know them really well, because it’s often easier to connect in writing and to read more into the written word than the spoken word. This can mean you rush into things, and relationships may move quicker than you expect. Always bear in mind that the other person is a stranger. Take your time to really get to know someone, and ensure he or she is who they say they are.
4) Ask your wali/mahram for advice and their opinion
If you ever get a gut feeling that something is not quite right, ask your Wali/Mahram or even a wise friend for advice and their opinion. Sometimes our mind can trick us into thinking we've met the perfect match when in fact we are being conned by a scam -artist. Always involve your wali and/or a friend from the start and keep them updated. Listen to advice from your loved ones.
5) Research them online
Don’t be afraid to research someone you meet online. Use Google Images to check whether the photos they are using belong to someone else and check social media sites to ensure they really exist. You can also search for sentences and phrases online, in case they are using a known fake profile. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to just stop talking to someone. Make sure to then report that profile to us and we will deal with it accordingly.
6) Always meet in a public place
Anyone you meet online is a stranger, and you need to remember that, even if you’re meeting for a 2nd or a 3rd time. As soon as you feel you are both a suitable match you can take the chat offline however please inform your Wali of who you are talking with and also let the potential spouse know that your Wali is involved and has access to your conversations. This will limit players and scammers from taking advantage of you. Men generally will be more cautious if they know a woman has a Wali or her family involved in the process. Never meet anyone alone! Take your Wali/mahram or even a friend along with you. Better to be safe than sorry!
7) Communicate with your Wali/Mahram/Friend
If you choose to ignore the above advice and meet someone in a public place alone then make sure to let someone else know where you are, and check back in with that person at the end of the meeting. Important: We never recommend that you meet a man alone even if it is in a public place.
9) Don’t reveal where you live or too many personal details
Even if you’re getting on really well with your potential spouse, don’t tell them where you live or work because at this stage you’re still communicating with a stranger. If they choose to tell you where they live then that is their choice but do not feel pressured to do the same. This can be arranged at a later date when he contacts your Wali and family.
10) Don’t be afraid to just get up and leave
Online matrimonial sites can be a great way to meet people you would never have a chance to meet, but there are always dishonest people in the world, and online matrimonial are just one of many ways you may come across such people. Always keep your wits about you, and if you ever feel uncomfortable you should simply leave. Your safety is of paramount importance.
Last but not least watch our Webinar Predators, Gold Diggers and Players - Warning Signs Your Prospective Spouse Is A Fake!