WHEN CAN WE EXCHANGE PERSONAL CONTACT DETAILS?
We do not advise you to share your personal details with anyone. If you do want to proceed to the next step, then we'd advise getting families involved, and thus sharing your parents details.
However, we do realise that sometimes it is easier to communicate via other methods, so as a rule of thumb, once you are happy that there is mutual compatibility between you both (i.e. you meet each other's basic criteria and outlook on life, etc), then you can exchange contact information.
We do not advise you to swap personal contact details unless you have established comparability. To establish compatiblity means to ask probing questions in order to determine whether you're both compatible for each other. We suggest you don't rush this step for your own protection.
If you feel that the person you're communicating with might be a suitable spouse then
1. Swap personal contact details but inform the Wali (for sisters)Our moderators will allow contact details to be swapped once we are satisfied that you have asked enough relevant questions.
2.If a sister has her Wali copied into the conversation contact details can we swapped at the start.
WHY IS EXCHANGING OF CONTACT INFORMATION DISCOURAGED?
Pure Matrimony prides itself on the quality of our members. One of the ways we maintain that quality is by monitoring the conversations so that we can weed out
non-genuine users who may not have sincere intentions. In short, it's for your security and benefit. Nobody wants to be played around with on the subject of marriage.
However, if our users continually take their conversations offline, not only does this encourage some haram behaviour (unmarried brothers and sisters should not be in discussion in seclusion as shaytan is the third among them), but it also prevents
us from being able to locate the non-genuine users. Also, without a record of the conversation, it's very difficult for us to get involved if there is a problem later on.
Rasul-Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "Whenever a non-mahram man
and woman meet in seclusion, Shaytaan is the third one joining them."
SOMEONE SENT ME THEIR PERSONAL CONTACT DETAILS, OR HAS
REQUESTED MINE. WHAT DO I DO?
If you're at the stage where mutual compatibility has been reached (i.e. you'd be
comfortable inviting the person to your home to take the talks to the next stage), then by all means go ahead. But Sisters , Please inform your Wali or a family member that you are exchanging contact details.
However, if you're in the very early stages of discussion, and they've acted against
the site rules, please report the member by clicking on the 'Report' link on the message, or at the bottom of their profile.
Please give a reason for reporting the member so that our moderator can deal with your query fast and effectively.